Facilitator intro/week 1
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CONNECT WITH GOD - CONNECT YOUR CHURCH - CONNECT WITH YOUR PURPOSE
CONNECT WITH GOD - CONNECT YOUR CHURCH - CONNECT WITH YOUR PURPOSE
Begin with the end in mind.
What does the end look like for a Rooted facilitator?
First, the next ten weeks should change you. No matter where you are with your relationship with God, if you pour yourself into Rooted, you will be different.
You will help the members of your group connect with God like never before, especially through sharing the stories, the prayer experience, and the serve experience.
You will help everyone in your group realize they have a story written by God especially for them, and that the story is a powerful tool for Kingdom building.
Your group will bond together in such a way that Rooted will not be the end but rather the beginning of what will become a small group.
You will start the process of training up leaders- for Rooted groups, small groups, and any other sphere of God'.
kingdom that He is asking them to step into and lead.
The greatest tool you will have to lead a successful Rooted group is prayer. Saturate the group members, and the group time in prayer.
Your role as a facilitator is critical to the success of your group's experience and their future as a small group.
Your primary objective is to create an environment that promotes authentic discussions, deeper biblical understanding, and lifestyle transformation among group members that, in turn, give them a new or renewed passion for:
A Rooted facilitator has many responsibilities that we will be highlighting in this book, but there is one responsibility you do NOT have, and that is teaching. All of the teaching is left to the written curriculum and to the Holy Spirit during the weekly group time. This is very important. It is so important, in fact, that if you feel as though you can't facilitate a group without teaching your insights on biblical matters, there are other important ways you can serve in Rooted, but facilitating is not the right place.
Your role as a Rooted facilitator is to be like a shepherd. You are to guide your group, and care for them, but not preach your agenda or teach your perspective. Though you aren't "teaching," remember biblical grounding is important in the facilitation of your group. If you sense a conversation is getting off biblical principles, redirect the talk to what the Bible says. If you sense someone is off-track in their interpretation of a topic, suggest the group look for the answer in Scripture "Where do you see that in the Bible?` or "Let's find a passage that talks about this topic," are a couple ways to redirect the focus to God's Word.
Don't hold back from sharing personal experiences to model depth and intimacy for your group. You are encouraged to share your journal entries and prayer requests as this will build trust and intimacy among you and your group members. Don't be afraid to give them application stories, or to empathize with another person's story.
Recognize that your group will be a mix of all different people, in different places their spiritual journeys. You may have individuals who are learning about God and have not made a decision to follow Him. You may have young believers. You may have people who have loved Jesus years and years. Your group is a picture of the beautiful body of Christ. In light or that, as people newer to the faith have questions, enlist the help and response from more mature believers. No matter where we are on our path of faith, we can all learn from one another!
Group Time
Be prepared for your group. Arrive early to be there to greet people by name. Consider bringing refreshments the first time you meet and then ask for volunteers to do this for the remaining weeks. Think about what would make you feel comfortable in a group setting, and then create that environment for your group:
Create a safe space for sharing, and invite people to be open and vulnerable. Before your group begins to share, remind them that everything said during the group time, in prayer requests and any other Rooted communication is confidential, and should not be discussed outside of your group. They will sign a contract of confidentiality but remind them often. This will encourage trust and deeper sharing within your group.
Group time has been designed for 1.5 - 2 hour sessions. If you are meeting for shorter or longer periods of time, adjust each portion of the meeting accordingly. The largest portion of the time is designated for discussion time. Give the discussion enough time for people to share deeply, leading to trust and authentic community within the group.
Ongoing Communication
Each week you will want to keep a list of prayer requests for your group. Diligently pray for each person. Let the Holy Spirit guide your prayers for each person and then keep record of them for future blessings and prayers. Follow up with group members who miss the group time. Let them know they were missed by the group. If they have had more than two absences, consider recommending that they participate in a future group, as consistent attendance leads to greater transformation and better Rooted experiences, as well as cultivates trust among group members. When you have one person who is not there regularly, your other, more consistent members may feel less secure in sharing personal and intimate pieces of their lives.
Continuing
One of the goals of Rooted is to launch all Rooted groups into small groups which will continue to do life together, upholding and expanding upon the values and disciplines established in Rooted, including the 7 Rhythms. This is a natural progression, as many groups form strong bonds, and want to continue meeting beyond the journey of Rooted. It is through these groups that people's lives will continue to be transformed, their faith will mature and strengthen, and their passions and giftedness will be lived out.
Plan for ways to communicate this goal as you lead your group each week. Rooted is just the beginning of the journey of living out a life of faith in Jesus together, and the groups should be very aware that the intention is for them to stay together, meeting consistently and serving as a group even after this initial 10 week experience has ended.
The best scenario is that you, the Rooted facilitator, would continue with your group, and take on the role of the small group leader. If you don't plan on moving into the small group and facilitating it, raise up a leader during the Rooted experience who can lead the small group once they have graduated from Rooted. The sooner you identify this leader, the better. Pray for God to reveal to you who you can specifically disciple over the next weeks, so that they are equipped, and excited to step into leadership during and after Rooted. By Week 6. invite this leader(s) to lead the discussion time and prayers in the group. Encourage them to be praying for the members of the group this will allow the members of the group to bond with their future small group leader. Lead with the end in mind, and see your group up to transition well into a small group.
Qualities of a small group leader:
Daily Devotions
As the facilitator, you should contact each person in your group during the week to encourage them. The daily devotions are intended to be completed within 10-15 minutes. Therefore, if they complete it each day, it shouldn't be overwhelming. A little encouragement during the week can make the difference in having a group prepared to participate during your weekly group time.
Also, each week there is a memory verse to support the teaching of that week. Encourage your group to memorize, and share it in the group. It's not meant to be like Sunday School where they say it and get a prize, but we all know there is great value in having God's truth tucked away in our hearts. Be creative in ways to memorize the verse. Make up a game or song, or take a few minutes in your group to write it on note cards your members can place around their homes, offices, or cars. Use it as an ice breaker for the week, and allow your group to share what the verse means to them, or how it impacted them throughout the week.
It is extremely important that you, too, do your daily devotions each week to be prepared for your group time. You will want the information to be fresh in your mind to lead discussions and participate. Don't rely on memory from past Rooted experiences. Reread each week to ensure timely recall, which also helps with addressing follow-up questions, and making the group time flow well.
Note: If you have any questions regarding curriculum, please notify the Rooted trainer for clarification prior to your group time.
Prayer
One of the first experiences your group will engage in, outside of group time, is fasting and prayer during Week 3. While
fasting is optional, it does increase the intensity of the prayer experience, and should be encouraged. If your group participates in the fasting portion, they will be asked to fast from sundown the day before your planned prayer time. Your group will meet in a specific place to pray for 1 hour. Guidelines for suggested prayers will be provided, however you can customize your time to fit the needs of your group.
You can lead your group through corporate prayer where everyone prays out loud, or invite those who would like to pray out loud to do so, while those who prefer not to can remain silent. We suggest you spend some time praying out loud, and then have a specified amount of time where each person goes out to pray silently and listen to God speak to them. After two hours of praying, if time permits, break your fast together, and talk about the prayer experience.
Debriefing the prayer experience is critical, and questions to prompt conversation will be provided. Many Rooted facilitators consider this particular experience a real turning point for their groups as they tend to bond greatly during this time.
Repentance
Breaking strongholds in Week 5 is a significant moment for your group. As people open up and share their struggles personal connections are strengthened and relationships grow. After standing toe to toe with suffering in Week 4, it is now time to break those strongholds that keep us in a place of pain. Once the freedom that Christ gives has been claimed. we can move into seeking for, and living out our purpose in Christ! As you can see, this week has drastic implications on the remainder of the Rooted experience, and the freedom an individual can feel living their life with purpose. This week's material provides you with resources and scriptural truths that will help facilitate healthy conversation around habitual sin. Speak these truths over your participants and rely on God's Spirit to lead you boldly into this week.
Serve the Community
Your group will serve the community together between Weeks 6 and 7. If you are going through Rooted as a church, you may be provided with a list of organizations with whom your church partners. If not, you can research and serve opportunities within your community. You may want to visit a homeless shelter, serve the military, work with pregnant/parenting teens or battered women. You may know of tutoring needs for underprivileged youth in neighboring communities. You can visit the elderly or provide handyman services in depressed neighborhoods. There are so many places to serve the needs of others. The main priority in this experience is that it should be highly relational, so choose an experience where you are with people, not putting boxes of food/supplies together or simply donating money, but actually interacting with those you are serving. During the daily devotions of Weeks 6 and 7 participants will learn about the attitude of service, and the blessings experienced by those served and those who serve. It is during these weeks that you will oftentimes see people engage their passion, and clearly hear their calling and purpose from God. Allow the strengths of others to guide your affirmations for them in the later weeks.
Sacrificial Generosity
In Week 8, groups are gathered together for the "money talk." As Jesus tells us, we cannot serve two masters, but must choose between God and money. So how does God view money, and what role does it have in our life? The way we manage our finances can be a reflection of our relationship with God. As facilitators, we must help people see this isn't simply a week about giving more money to the church, but rather living in recognition that all we have has been given as a gift from God. Freely we have received, freely we are called to give. For many, dependence on money and greed is a stronghold. Begin to pray for each member of your group to experience the freedom that comes from being sacrificial and generous givers.
Share your Story
During the Week 9 daily devotions, your group will be guided with tips on how to put the pieces of their story together, and how to share it with others. They can use their story to invite someone to church, or to the next session of Rooted, or simply into a further conversation about their faith. They are not being asked to stand on a street corner with a sign, or knock on doors in their neighborhood. We are called to share our faith story, and as we respond in obedience, we can be assured that the Holy Spirit will work in the hearts of the people to whom we are telling it. It will be helpful to bring up the idea of telling our stories in the early weeks of Rooted. Encourage people to think about and pray for the people in their lives with whom they might share their story. Give your group the freedom to listen to the Holy Spirit, and engage in spiritual conversations with others- not necessarily during a set week of Rooted. God's timing isn't always ours, and it's important to grasp the opportunities He gives us.
Additionally, take time each week to have people share their stories of faith in two to five minutes. Though there will be time in Week 9 to write and hone their stories of their lives before Jesus and after Jesus, encourage one or two people each week to simply tell their story as rough or raw as it is presently. As they do, pay attention and take notes. This will help you as you pray for your group members each week, and as you offer the final blessing in Week 10.
Worship
Lead with the end in mind. Your group will experience a celebration together at the end of the 10 weeks of Rooted, where stories will be shared, and people will give their life to Jesus! During the final group time you will have an intimate group celebration of sorts, where you will speak a blessing over each person in your group. This will consist of the passion/purpose God has for them-that which they have expressed, and that you have witnessed during your time together. This is why taking notes during your group time and your personal prayer time is so critical. Pay close attention to what God said to them during the prayer experience. Observe them during the serve experience to gain insight into their servants' hearts. Notice the affirmations that the participants give throughout the time together.
This blessing should be personal and pertain to each person's passion for serving and advancing the Kingdom of God. It should encourage their vision for ongoing service in the Church body, their community, and the world. For instance you may have someone who has a orphans You could bless him or her passion for with, "You have a heart for orphans, and God will use that." Of course, this doesn't mean he or she needs to adopt orphans, it just means he or she can provide a relationship that is missing in the children's lives. Or, you may have someone who has the gift of administration.
The blessing may be something like, "Your gift of administration will bless many people and will be used by God to help advance His Kingdom.?" You may have someone identify his or her gift to be part of the worship team or a Children's Ministry leader. You could bless him or her with, "God has gifted you with special talents to serve in the church, helping to bring others closer in relationship to Him."
Depending on your Rooted structure, during the celebration, you may also be commissioning your group for ongoing ministry in your church. This is to assign responsibility for praying for hurting people in the church, sharing their faith and answering questions as they arise, modeling a lifestyle consistent with a Christ-follower.
Each believer is a minister with a ministry
Objective
Use this to guide each group time. What are your goals as a leader? Check the Objective. Is your group off topic? Check the Objective. Are you creating an environment for the Holy Spirit to move? Check the Objective
Checklist
This is the "must do' list in preparation for and during your group times
Prayer Points
It is important that we fight spiritual battles with spiritual weapons. Put on the Armor of God (Eph. 6), and pray in preparation for each group time. You will find recommended prayer points here
Story
This will provide key discussion points and a suggested time-frame based on a1.5 -2 hour meeting. Adjust accordingly for sessions of shorter or longer length. This is merely a recommendation, and should not be followed minute by minute. Be discerning how the Spirit guides, and allowing them to go off script. Each group has a unique rhythm, be quick to find yours
Tips
These tips are week specific, and very helpful for navigating tough conversations and caring for your group well. Be sure to review the tips within the group time prior to your group experience.
Devotion Review
The Devotion Review will provide you with every question asked in the week's devotions. Use this as a cheat sheet for when the conversation needs a boost.
Listen intently to the person who is sharing, and respond with another question to have them go deeper. For instance, if someone has shared that they are struggling with the idea that God speaks to people, ask the group "Has anyone else ever struggled with this?" or " What have some of you experienced in this area that might help with this idea?" These types of questions will often spur on a discussion that goes much deeper than the responses your group may have started giving.
Always try to go beyond the easy answer, and find what is underneath. This can take the entire ten weeks with some members while others are able to open up each and every group time. The key is listening to what they share, and asking follow up questions, "Why do you think that is?" "How is that affecting...?" “When did you notice that beginning in your life?" " Where in your life is that true?"
Group Dynamics
You will need to speak loud enough for all of your group members to hear. If you are soft-spoken, request a smaller room where your voice will carry better, and you will be able to be heard by your group. Sit in a position in your group where you are able to face the majority of the people when you speak, so that you are the person in authority to facilitate, are able to maintain eye contact, and hear each person as they share.
Since all groups consist of people with different personalities and different communication styles, a personality/communication guide is included at the end of this section to assist you with leading each style. Because of these different styles, as well as the fact that people will not feel comfortable sharing at first, it may take some energy or your part to get the group talking.
Ensure you have balanced dialogue. It is important that each person is able to contribute to the discussion. Part of your responsibility is to guide the discussion, so that each group member feels included and supported, and to avoid allowing a more dominating personality to take over the discussion. This can be challenging, but it is important to the success of the group. If you notice one person is sharing more than is appropriate, you can interrupt and say, "'I can tell this is a topic that interests you, so let's continue the conversation later, but right now we need to move on, or "I love how passionate you are about this topic, does anyone else have anything to add? Otherwise let's move on for now." Follow up with that person later to let them know that you redirected the conversation to allow for everyone to be able to share, but that you are interested in their input. Hopefully they will become more aware in the future
There are several tactics for drawing out those who are more quiet or reluctant to share. Perhaps the best way is simply, ask them a question. A good way to do this is to say their name first, then ask the question. This accomplishes a couple of things. First, the person you call on will have a second to get an answer ready if you say their name first. Second, it will set the tone for the rest of the group, letting them know that they may be called on to share. It will usually help them be ready and more willing to share.
Along these same lines, you may have someone who is going through a very difficult time. Perhaps he or she lost his or her job is having marital problems, or dealing with illness or addiction. There is a fine line between your group supporting this individual through this, and turning it into a support group. As the facilitator, balance the time for all group members. Be sensitive to their needs, and then move the group along in their dialogue. Lead the group through a prayer of support/comfort/peace/healing, and offer ongoing prayer support through the week as well, ensuring they understand it is not a lack of care for them. To the contrary, let them know that you are deeply concerned, and will follow up with them, and reassure them that the group will come alongside him or her in tangible and supportive ways.
Avoid tangents. You may have someone in your group who goes off-track and wants to discuss something they heard previously, or learned somewhere else. While you can let them comment, don't get distracted, or let your group wander off-topic to the point they feel they didn't have an opportunity to discuss the week's topic. This can be frustrating for the group, as they will have come to the group time wanting to share or gain perspective on the intended topic. Value the time of all of the group members and the efforts they have put into their weekly studies. Gently bring the group back to the discussion at-hand, and refocus the conversation.
Don't feel as though you need to lead everyone into agreement. Be okay with messy conversations. Affirm each person for sharing and then ask, "Does anyone have similar or different thoughts? Remember, do not answer their questions or teach. The Holy Spirit is working and will reveal the truth. Be patient. Let people struggle. This will encourage them to look further, to study more, and to find the truth they are seeking. Again, you may need to redirect the conversation to the Bible. If you're asked a Bible-related question and you're unsure of the answer say, "That's a great question," or "I'd like to answer that but I want to make sure I giving you the best answer," and tell then that you'll take note of the question, seek an answer from one of your pastors or leaders, and get back to them the following week.
Be careful not to judge people by the answers they give. Be respectful and open minded to other ways of thinking. Sometimes this will bring about the liveliest discussions.
Be considerate of different viewpoints, as your demeanor will oftentimes dictate how the rest of the group responds. Be
sensitive to the fact that members of you group might come from many different religious backgrounds and have different
political viewpoints. By being open to differing opinions, you will promote a safe environment for people to share
If people know they won't be judged or ridiculed by presenting conflicting opinions, or an answer they are unsure about, they will be more willing to open up. Again, people with viewpoints that aren't in line with the truth will discover the truth. They are in the right place Remember, it might be difficult to get people talking during the first few weeks. Help people make connections within the
group. People will stay and contribute to the group because of how you make them feel.
Take notes on what your members are sharing. You will be praying to break strongholds in Week 5, as well as speaking a prayer of blessing over them in Week 10 and this will be much easier if you have notes on what they have revealed during group time. You can also take note of stories that may be shared at future celebrations.
CO-LEADING
Leading your group each week is a lot of work. If you don't have an assigned co-leader, you can ask one of your members to assist you. You can take turns leading on alternate weeks, or have one person do the icebreaker, and the other lead the discussion. Or, one person can take care of follow-up and weekly emails, and the other can lead the group discussion. Look at your different gifts and strengths, and decide what works best for you both. This is a great way to get an idea of future small group leaders in your group, and to get more people involved for greater group participation.
Although people are different, most fall into one of four personality styles: Analytical, Driver, Amiable, and Expressive. Below are basic characteristics of each of these personality styles as well as tips on engaging each person. Many people fall primarily into one category, but may have traits in another category as well.
Highlighting these personality types is intended to give insight into how you might best guide conversation, affirm group members when they share, and redirect your group when tangents arise. They are in no means a hard and fast guideline for discussions or dealing with your group personally. They are given only to heighten awareness that what you say can be interpreted, ignored, or misunderstood based on not only your words, but on their personalities as well.
4 MAIN CATEGORIES OF ATTENDEES.
ANALYTICAL
Analytical people are known for being systematic, well-organized and deliberate. These individuals appreciate facts and information presented in a logical manner, information presented in a logical manner as documentation of truth. They enjoy organization and completion of detailed tasks. Others may see them at times as being overly cautious and structured people who do things too much "by the book”'
Leading the Analytical: This personality is strongly independent. Don't rush things. Plan to give the person plenty of breathing space and thinking time. They may be the people who listen, gather information, and comment late in the group time, or they may think about it during the week and share the next time you are together.
DRIVER
Drivers thrive on the thrill of the challenge, and the internal motivation to succeed. They are practical folks who focus on getting results. They can do a lot in a very short time. They usually talk quickly, directly, and to the point. They are often viewed as decisive and pragmatic.
Leading the Driver: Be to the point with Drivers. Speak specifically and understand that their responses will seem more
matter-of-fact, less like opinions.
AMIABLE
Amiable people are dependable, loyal, and easygoing. They like things that are nonthreatening and friendly. They dislike impersonal details and cold hard facts. They are usually quick to reach a decision but tend to be wishy-washy on the follow-through. They are often described as a warm people who are sensitive to the feelings of others, They are guided by feelings more than facts, and will have a tendency to be compassionate to others in the group.
Leading the Amiable: Nurture the relationship, and work hard to gain their trust. Amiables love security and safety, and will thrive in that type of environment.
EXPRESSIVE
Expressive people are very outgoing and enthusiastic, with a high energy level. They enjoy helping others, and are particularly fond of socializing. They are usually slow to reach a decision. They are often thought of as talkers, overly dramatic, impulsive, and manipulative. They are oftentimes "idea' people. They like recognition and compliments. They may come across as sarcastic at times. Leading the Expressive: Expressives like to be liked and appreciated. They need people around them, and are anxious to develop and maintain relationships. They may dominate the conversation, so be prepared to steer and guide the discussion.
ICEBREAKERS : GENERAL QUESTIONS
What have you always wanted to do, but were too afraid to try?
What phrase do you most want to hear?
What was a defining moment in your life?
Of what are you most proud?
When was the last time you had a great conversation?
What is one thing you would like to see changed in the world?
What are qualities of a true friend?
How do you bring joy to others?
TWO TRUTHS AND A LIE
Have each person go around and share two truths and one made-up lie about themselves. Then the group will guess which one is the lie. This should be very light-hearted and fun!
PEAKS AND PITS
Have each person go around and share their peak (high point) and pit (low point) of their week. This will help you gauge the pulse of the group at the moment.
Group time Week 1: What is rooted?
Objective: For the next few weeks, we want to create a warm , inviting atmosphere that will encourage vulnerable and honest sharing and establish guidelines and expectations.
CHECKLIST
PRAYER POINTS
GROUP TIME OVERVIEW
Jose casts a vision for Rooted, and encourages individuals to invest and stick with it.
TIP: Everyone will be arriving from different places, a welcoming environment for them. Be gracious. Welcome each one as they arrive, especially this first meeting, as they may have check-in issues, or get lost on their way to group.
I. Icebreaker-5 minutes
TIP: Because people might not know each other on this first night, understand that they might not feel comfortable opening up and talking. Be prepared with discussion questions and | or additional icebreakers to help engage everyone.
II. Introduction Video- 25 minutes
TIP: Understand that some people might not want to be there. Some may have been brought there by a parent, spouse, or friend, and might be resistant to the whole experience. Be okay with that. You can create a welcoming environment, but it's the Holy Spirit who will change their hearts:
TIP: Get a notebook to journal your group times.Even in this first session, it is important to take notes. You will use the notes in Week 10 when you pray a blessing for them. Listen to how your group members introduce themselves, as it will give you insight into each person. This may play a major role in a later session. Ensure your notes are organized for you to use in future prayers, blessings, and commissioning.
III. Set Expectations-15-20 minutes
ROOTED COVENANT
It is our desire to promote a safe environment for sharing the most important things in life. We want to provide a place where people can reveal openly and confidently the broken areas of their lives without judgment or condemnation. We are not here to "fix" one another. We encourage openness, vulnerability and intimacy during discussion and prayer times. In order to ensure a safe haven for personal sharing, we ask that each Rooted participant enter into an agreement of confidentiality.
Additionally, to get the most out of this experience, our hope is that you make a commitment to attend all sessions and
participate in the group discussions. If you cannot be there, group dynamics will be impacted. If you know you will miss more than two group meetings, we ask that you attend at another time when Rooted will be offered again.
I agree to the following
I agree to the following
___ I agree to attend all group meetings
___ I agree to keep all things shared by my group members confidential at all times.
Sign your name _____________________________________________ and today's date_______________________
What does the end look like for a Rooted facilitator?
First, the next ten weeks should change you. No matter where you are with your relationship with God, if you pour yourself into Rooted, you will be different.
You will help the members of your group connect with God like never before, especially through sharing the stories, the prayer experience, and the serve experience.
You will help everyone in your group realize they have a story written by God especially for them, and that the story is a powerful tool for Kingdom building.
Your group will bond together in such a way that Rooted will not be the end but rather the beginning of what will become a small group.
You will start the process of training up leaders- for Rooted groups, small groups, and any other sphere of God'.
kingdom that He is asking them to step into and lead.
The greatest tool you will have to lead a successful Rooted group is prayer. Saturate the group members, and the group time in prayer.
Your role as a facilitator is critical to the success of your group's experience and their future as a small group.
Your primary objective is to create an environment that promotes authentic discussions, deeper biblical understanding, and lifestyle transformation among group members that, in turn, give them a new or renewed passion for:
- A personal relationship with Jesus
- Knowing and hearing God's voice
- Living a lifestyle consistent with their faith
- The body of Christ and fulfilling their role within the local church
- An open and intimate prayer life.
- Intentionally sharing their faith
- Issues of poverty and social justice in their community and around the world
- Daily devotions
- Weekly group time
- Three group experiences outside of group time: prayer, serve, sharing your story
- Ongoing communication and prayer with group members.
- Final blessing, celebration and commissioning
A Rooted facilitator has many responsibilities that we will be highlighting in this book, but there is one responsibility you do NOT have, and that is teaching. All of the teaching is left to the written curriculum and to the Holy Spirit during the weekly group time. This is very important. It is so important, in fact, that if you feel as though you can't facilitate a group without teaching your insights on biblical matters, there are other important ways you can serve in Rooted, but facilitating is not the right place.
Your role as a Rooted facilitator is to be like a shepherd. You are to guide your group, and care for them, but not preach your agenda or teach your perspective. Though you aren't "teaching," remember biblical grounding is important in the facilitation of your group. If you sense a conversation is getting off biblical principles, redirect the talk to what the Bible says. If you sense someone is off-track in their interpretation of a topic, suggest the group look for the answer in Scripture "Where do you see that in the Bible?` or "Let's find a passage that talks about this topic," are a couple ways to redirect the focus to God's Word.
Don't hold back from sharing personal experiences to model depth and intimacy for your group. You are encouraged to share your journal entries and prayer requests as this will build trust and intimacy among you and your group members. Don't be afraid to give them application stories, or to empathize with another person's story.
Recognize that your group will be a mix of all different people, in different places their spiritual journeys. You may have individuals who are learning about God and have not made a decision to follow Him. You may have young believers. You may have people who have loved Jesus years and years. Your group is a picture of the beautiful body of Christ. In light or that, as people newer to the faith have questions, enlist the help and response from more mature believers. No matter where we are on our path of faith, we can all learn from one another!
Group Time
Be prepared for your group. Arrive early to be there to greet people by name. Consider bringing refreshments the first time you meet and then ask for volunteers to do this for the remaining weeks. Think about what would make you feel comfortable in a group setting, and then create that environment for your group:
Create a safe space for sharing, and invite people to be open and vulnerable. Before your group begins to share, remind them that everything said during the group time, in prayer requests and any other Rooted communication is confidential, and should not be discussed outside of your group. They will sign a contract of confidentiality but remind them often. This will encourage trust and deeper sharing within your group.
Group time has been designed for 1.5 - 2 hour sessions. If you are meeting for shorter or longer periods of time, adjust each portion of the meeting accordingly. The largest portion of the time is designated for discussion time. Give the discussion enough time for people to share deeply, leading to trust and authentic community within the group.
Ongoing Communication
Each week you will want to keep a list of prayer requests for your group. Diligently pray for each person. Let the Holy Spirit guide your prayers for each person and then keep record of them for future blessings and prayers. Follow up with group members who miss the group time. Let them know they were missed by the group. If they have had more than two absences, consider recommending that they participate in a future group, as consistent attendance leads to greater transformation and better Rooted experiences, as well as cultivates trust among group members. When you have one person who is not there regularly, your other, more consistent members may feel less secure in sharing personal and intimate pieces of their lives.
Continuing
One of the goals of Rooted is to launch all Rooted groups into small groups which will continue to do life together, upholding and expanding upon the values and disciplines established in Rooted, including the 7 Rhythms. This is a natural progression, as many groups form strong bonds, and want to continue meeting beyond the journey of Rooted. It is through these groups that people's lives will continue to be transformed, their faith will mature and strengthen, and their passions and giftedness will be lived out.
Plan for ways to communicate this goal as you lead your group each week. Rooted is just the beginning of the journey of living out a life of faith in Jesus together, and the groups should be very aware that the intention is for them to stay together, meeting consistently and serving as a group even after this initial 10 week experience has ended.
The best scenario is that you, the Rooted facilitator, would continue with your group, and take on the role of the small group leader. If you don't plan on moving into the small group and facilitating it, raise up a leader during the Rooted experience who can lead the small group once they have graduated from Rooted. The sooner you identify this leader, the better. Pray for God to reveal to you who you can specifically disciple over the next weeks, so that they are equipped, and excited to step into leadership during and after Rooted. By Week 6. invite this leader(s) to lead the discussion time and prayers in the group. Encourage them to be praying for the members of the group this will allow the members of the group to bond with their future small group leader. Lead with the end in mind, and see your group up to transition well into a small group.
Qualities of a small group leader:
- Is a committed follower of Jesus who attends this church regularly, and has completed Rooted.
- Followed God's call into leadership and possesses one or more of the spiritual gifts of shepherding, pastoring, serving, and leading.
- Facilitates a discussion around God's Word, models vulnerability and intimacy within the group, manages group dynamics, and motivates the group to engage with community
- Identifies spiritual gifts, and helps others use them to serve.
- Model values consistent with Rooted praying, serving, stewarding God's resources, addressing and breaking strongholds, sharing his or her faith, taking part in communion…..
- Determines group schedule and curriculum.
- Is mission-minded, with a heart to impact the community
- Is teachable, and attends small group trainings and meetings with coaches
- Embraces the mission and values of this church, and lives them out as a small group leader.
Daily Devotions
As the facilitator, you should contact each person in your group during the week to encourage them. The daily devotions are intended to be completed within 10-15 minutes. Therefore, if they complete it each day, it shouldn't be overwhelming. A little encouragement during the week can make the difference in having a group prepared to participate during your weekly group time.
Also, each week there is a memory verse to support the teaching of that week. Encourage your group to memorize, and share it in the group. It's not meant to be like Sunday School where they say it and get a prize, but we all know there is great value in having God's truth tucked away in our hearts. Be creative in ways to memorize the verse. Make up a game or song, or take a few minutes in your group to write it on note cards your members can place around their homes, offices, or cars. Use it as an ice breaker for the week, and allow your group to share what the verse means to them, or how it impacted them throughout the week.
It is extremely important that you, too, do your daily devotions each week to be prepared for your group time. You will want the information to be fresh in your mind to lead discussions and participate. Don't rely on memory from past Rooted experiences. Reread each week to ensure timely recall, which also helps with addressing follow-up questions, and making the group time flow well.
Note: If you have any questions regarding curriculum, please notify the Rooted trainer for clarification prior to your group time.
Prayer
One of the first experiences your group will engage in, outside of group time, is fasting and prayer during Week 3. While
fasting is optional, it does increase the intensity of the prayer experience, and should be encouraged. If your group participates in the fasting portion, they will be asked to fast from sundown the day before your planned prayer time. Your group will meet in a specific place to pray for 1 hour. Guidelines for suggested prayers will be provided, however you can customize your time to fit the needs of your group.
You can lead your group through corporate prayer where everyone prays out loud, or invite those who would like to pray out loud to do so, while those who prefer not to can remain silent. We suggest you spend some time praying out loud, and then have a specified amount of time where each person goes out to pray silently and listen to God speak to them. After two hours of praying, if time permits, break your fast together, and talk about the prayer experience.
Debriefing the prayer experience is critical, and questions to prompt conversation will be provided. Many Rooted facilitators consider this particular experience a real turning point for their groups as they tend to bond greatly during this time.
Repentance
Breaking strongholds in Week 5 is a significant moment for your group. As people open up and share their struggles personal connections are strengthened and relationships grow. After standing toe to toe with suffering in Week 4, it is now time to break those strongholds that keep us in a place of pain. Once the freedom that Christ gives has been claimed. we can move into seeking for, and living out our purpose in Christ! As you can see, this week has drastic implications on the remainder of the Rooted experience, and the freedom an individual can feel living their life with purpose. This week's material provides you with resources and scriptural truths that will help facilitate healthy conversation around habitual sin. Speak these truths over your participants and rely on God's Spirit to lead you boldly into this week.
Serve the Community
Your group will serve the community together between Weeks 6 and 7. If you are going through Rooted as a church, you may be provided with a list of organizations with whom your church partners. If not, you can research and serve opportunities within your community. You may want to visit a homeless shelter, serve the military, work with pregnant/parenting teens or battered women. You may know of tutoring needs for underprivileged youth in neighboring communities. You can visit the elderly or provide handyman services in depressed neighborhoods. There are so many places to serve the needs of others. The main priority in this experience is that it should be highly relational, so choose an experience where you are with people, not putting boxes of food/supplies together or simply donating money, but actually interacting with those you are serving. During the daily devotions of Weeks 6 and 7 participants will learn about the attitude of service, and the blessings experienced by those served and those who serve. It is during these weeks that you will oftentimes see people engage their passion, and clearly hear their calling and purpose from God. Allow the strengths of others to guide your affirmations for them in the later weeks.
Sacrificial Generosity
In Week 8, groups are gathered together for the "money talk." As Jesus tells us, we cannot serve two masters, but must choose between God and money. So how does God view money, and what role does it have in our life? The way we manage our finances can be a reflection of our relationship with God. As facilitators, we must help people see this isn't simply a week about giving more money to the church, but rather living in recognition that all we have has been given as a gift from God. Freely we have received, freely we are called to give. For many, dependence on money and greed is a stronghold. Begin to pray for each member of your group to experience the freedom that comes from being sacrificial and generous givers.
Share your Story
During the Week 9 daily devotions, your group will be guided with tips on how to put the pieces of their story together, and how to share it with others. They can use their story to invite someone to church, or to the next session of Rooted, or simply into a further conversation about their faith. They are not being asked to stand on a street corner with a sign, or knock on doors in their neighborhood. We are called to share our faith story, and as we respond in obedience, we can be assured that the Holy Spirit will work in the hearts of the people to whom we are telling it. It will be helpful to bring up the idea of telling our stories in the early weeks of Rooted. Encourage people to think about and pray for the people in their lives with whom they might share their story. Give your group the freedom to listen to the Holy Spirit, and engage in spiritual conversations with others- not necessarily during a set week of Rooted. God's timing isn't always ours, and it's important to grasp the opportunities He gives us.
Additionally, take time each week to have people share their stories of faith in two to five minutes. Though there will be time in Week 9 to write and hone their stories of their lives before Jesus and after Jesus, encourage one or two people each week to simply tell their story as rough or raw as it is presently. As they do, pay attention and take notes. This will help you as you pray for your group members each week, and as you offer the final blessing in Week 10.
Worship
Lead with the end in mind. Your group will experience a celebration together at the end of the 10 weeks of Rooted, where stories will be shared, and people will give their life to Jesus! During the final group time you will have an intimate group celebration of sorts, where you will speak a blessing over each person in your group. This will consist of the passion/purpose God has for them-that which they have expressed, and that you have witnessed during your time together. This is why taking notes during your group time and your personal prayer time is so critical. Pay close attention to what God said to them during the prayer experience. Observe them during the serve experience to gain insight into their servants' hearts. Notice the affirmations that the participants give throughout the time together.
This blessing should be personal and pertain to each person's passion for serving and advancing the Kingdom of God. It should encourage their vision for ongoing service in the Church body, their community, and the world. For instance you may have someone who has a orphans You could bless him or her passion for with, "You have a heart for orphans, and God will use that." Of course, this doesn't mean he or she needs to adopt orphans, it just means he or she can provide a relationship that is missing in the children's lives. Or, you may have someone who has the gift of administration.
The blessing may be something like, "Your gift of administration will bless many people and will be used by God to help advance His Kingdom.?" You may have someone identify his or her gift to be part of the worship team or a Children's Ministry leader. You could bless him or her with, "God has gifted you with special talents to serve in the church, helping to bring others closer in relationship to Him."
Depending on your Rooted structure, during the celebration, you may also be commissioning your group for ongoing ministry in your church. This is to assign responsibility for praying for hurting people in the church, sharing their faith and answering questions as they arise, modeling a lifestyle consistent with a Christ-follower.
Each believer is a minister with a ministry
Objective
Use this to guide each group time. What are your goals as a leader? Check the Objective. Is your group off topic? Check the Objective. Are you creating an environment for the Holy Spirit to move? Check the Objective
Checklist
This is the "must do' list in preparation for and during your group times
Prayer Points
It is important that we fight spiritual battles with spiritual weapons. Put on the Armor of God (Eph. 6), and pray in preparation for each group time. You will find recommended prayer points here
Story
This will provide key discussion points and a suggested time-frame based on a1.5 -2 hour meeting. Adjust accordingly for sessions of shorter or longer length. This is merely a recommendation, and should not be followed minute by minute. Be discerning how the Spirit guides, and allowing them to go off script. Each group has a unique rhythm, be quick to find yours
Tips
These tips are week specific, and very helpful for navigating tough conversations and caring for your group well. Be sure to review the tips within the group time prior to your group experience.
Devotion Review
The Devotion Review will provide you with every question asked in the week's devotions. Use this as a cheat sheet for when the conversation needs a boost.
Listen intently to the person who is sharing, and respond with another question to have them go deeper. For instance, if someone has shared that they are struggling with the idea that God speaks to people, ask the group "Has anyone else ever struggled with this?" or " What have some of you experienced in this area that might help with this idea?" These types of questions will often spur on a discussion that goes much deeper than the responses your group may have started giving.
Always try to go beyond the easy answer, and find what is underneath. This can take the entire ten weeks with some members while others are able to open up each and every group time. The key is listening to what they share, and asking follow up questions, "Why do you think that is?" "How is that affecting...?" “When did you notice that beginning in your life?" " Where in your life is that true?"
Group Dynamics
You will need to speak loud enough for all of your group members to hear. If you are soft-spoken, request a smaller room where your voice will carry better, and you will be able to be heard by your group. Sit in a position in your group where you are able to face the majority of the people when you speak, so that you are the person in authority to facilitate, are able to maintain eye contact, and hear each person as they share.
Since all groups consist of people with different personalities and different communication styles, a personality/communication guide is included at the end of this section to assist you with leading each style. Because of these different styles, as well as the fact that people will not feel comfortable sharing at first, it may take some energy or your part to get the group talking.
Ensure you have balanced dialogue. It is important that each person is able to contribute to the discussion. Part of your responsibility is to guide the discussion, so that each group member feels included and supported, and to avoid allowing a more dominating personality to take over the discussion. This can be challenging, but it is important to the success of the group. If you notice one person is sharing more than is appropriate, you can interrupt and say, "'I can tell this is a topic that interests you, so let's continue the conversation later, but right now we need to move on, or "I love how passionate you are about this topic, does anyone else have anything to add? Otherwise let's move on for now." Follow up with that person later to let them know that you redirected the conversation to allow for everyone to be able to share, but that you are interested in their input. Hopefully they will become more aware in the future
There are several tactics for drawing out those who are more quiet or reluctant to share. Perhaps the best way is simply, ask them a question. A good way to do this is to say their name first, then ask the question. This accomplishes a couple of things. First, the person you call on will have a second to get an answer ready if you say their name first. Second, it will set the tone for the rest of the group, letting them know that they may be called on to share. It will usually help them be ready and more willing to share.
Along these same lines, you may have someone who is going through a very difficult time. Perhaps he or she lost his or her job is having marital problems, or dealing with illness or addiction. There is a fine line between your group supporting this individual through this, and turning it into a support group. As the facilitator, balance the time for all group members. Be sensitive to their needs, and then move the group along in their dialogue. Lead the group through a prayer of support/comfort/peace/healing, and offer ongoing prayer support through the week as well, ensuring they understand it is not a lack of care for them. To the contrary, let them know that you are deeply concerned, and will follow up with them, and reassure them that the group will come alongside him or her in tangible and supportive ways.
Avoid tangents. You may have someone in your group who goes off-track and wants to discuss something they heard previously, or learned somewhere else. While you can let them comment, don't get distracted, or let your group wander off-topic to the point they feel they didn't have an opportunity to discuss the week's topic. This can be frustrating for the group, as they will have come to the group time wanting to share or gain perspective on the intended topic. Value the time of all of the group members and the efforts they have put into their weekly studies. Gently bring the group back to the discussion at-hand, and refocus the conversation.
Don't feel as though you need to lead everyone into agreement. Be okay with messy conversations. Affirm each person for sharing and then ask, "Does anyone have similar or different thoughts? Remember, do not answer their questions or teach. The Holy Spirit is working and will reveal the truth. Be patient. Let people struggle. This will encourage them to look further, to study more, and to find the truth they are seeking. Again, you may need to redirect the conversation to the Bible. If you're asked a Bible-related question and you're unsure of the answer say, "That's a great question," or "I'd like to answer that but I want to make sure I giving you the best answer," and tell then that you'll take note of the question, seek an answer from one of your pastors or leaders, and get back to them the following week.
Be careful not to judge people by the answers they give. Be respectful and open minded to other ways of thinking. Sometimes this will bring about the liveliest discussions.
Be considerate of different viewpoints, as your demeanor will oftentimes dictate how the rest of the group responds. Be
sensitive to the fact that members of you group might come from many different religious backgrounds and have different
political viewpoints. By being open to differing opinions, you will promote a safe environment for people to share
If people know they won't be judged or ridiculed by presenting conflicting opinions, or an answer they are unsure about, they will be more willing to open up. Again, people with viewpoints that aren't in line with the truth will discover the truth. They are in the right place Remember, it might be difficult to get people talking during the first few weeks. Help people make connections within the
group. People will stay and contribute to the group because of how you make them feel.
Take notes on what your members are sharing. You will be praying to break strongholds in Week 5, as well as speaking a prayer of blessing over them in Week 10 and this will be much easier if you have notes on what they have revealed during group time. You can also take note of stories that may be shared at future celebrations.
CO-LEADING
Leading your group each week is a lot of work. If you don't have an assigned co-leader, you can ask one of your members to assist you. You can take turns leading on alternate weeks, or have one person do the icebreaker, and the other lead the discussion. Or, one person can take care of follow-up and weekly emails, and the other can lead the group discussion. Look at your different gifts and strengths, and decide what works best for you both. This is a great way to get an idea of future small group leaders in your group, and to get more people involved for greater group participation.
Although people are different, most fall into one of four personality styles: Analytical, Driver, Amiable, and Expressive. Below are basic characteristics of each of these personality styles as well as tips on engaging each person. Many people fall primarily into one category, but may have traits in another category as well.
Highlighting these personality types is intended to give insight into how you might best guide conversation, affirm group members when they share, and redirect your group when tangents arise. They are in no means a hard and fast guideline for discussions or dealing with your group personally. They are given only to heighten awareness that what you say can be interpreted, ignored, or misunderstood based on not only your words, but on their personalities as well.
4 MAIN CATEGORIES OF ATTENDEES.
ANALYTICAL
Analytical people are known for being systematic, well-organized and deliberate. These individuals appreciate facts and information presented in a logical manner, information presented in a logical manner as documentation of truth. They enjoy organization and completion of detailed tasks. Others may see them at times as being overly cautious and structured people who do things too much "by the book”'
Leading the Analytical: This personality is strongly independent. Don't rush things. Plan to give the person plenty of breathing space and thinking time. They may be the people who listen, gather information, and comment late in the group time, or they may think about it during the week and share the next time you are together.
DRIVER
Drivers thrive on the thrill of the challenge, and the internal motivation to succeed. They are practical folks who focus on getting results. They can do a lot in a very short time. They usually talk quickly, directly, and to the point. They are often viewed as decisive and pragmatic.
Leading the Driver: Be to the point with Drivers. Speak specifically and understand that their responses will seem more
matter-of-fact, less like opinions.
AMIABLE
Amiable people are dependable, loyal, and easygoing. They like things that are nonthreatening and friendly. They dislike impersonal details and cold hard facts. They are usually quick to reach a decision but tend to be wishy-washy on the follow-through. They are often described as a warm people who are sensitive to the feelings of others, They are guided by feelings more than facts, and will have a tendency to be compassionate to others in the group.
Leading the Amiable: Nurture the relationship, and work hard to gain their trust. Amiables love security and safety, and will thrive in that type of environment.
EXPRESSIVE
Expressive people are very outgoing and enthusiastic, with a high energy level. They enjoy helping others, and are particularly fond of socializing. They are usually slow to reach a decision. They are often thought of as talkers, overly dramatic, impulsive, and manipulative. They are oftentimes "idea' people. They like recognition and compliments. They may come across as sarcastic at times. Leading the Expressive: Expressives like to be liked and appreciated. They need people around them, and are anxious to develop and maintain relationships. They may dominate the conversation, so be prepared to steer and guide the discussion.
ICEBREAKERS : GENERAL QUESTIONS
What have you always wanted to do, but were too afraid to try?
What phrase do you most want to hear?
What was a defining moment in your life?
Of what are you most proud?
When was the last time you had a great conversation?
What is one thing you would like to see changed in the world?
What are qualities of a true friend?
How do you bring joy to others?
TWO TRUTHS AND A LIE
Have each person go around and share two truths and one made-up lie about themselves. Then the group will guess which one is the lie. This should be very light-hearted and fun!
PEAKS AND PITS
Have each person go around and share their peak (high point) and pit (low point) of their week. This will help you gauge the pulse of the group at the moment.
Group time Week 1: What is rooted?
Objective: For the next few weeks, we want to create a warm , inviting atmosphere that will encourage vulnerable and honest sharing and establish guidelines and expectations.
CHECKLIST
- Arrive early, and set up meeting area (chairs, snacks, nametags)
- Share the values behind the Rooted Covenant, and sign it.
- Get updated contact info for participants, and share yours.
PRAYER POINTS
- Everyone would attend the introductory session with no logistical issues, their hearts would be prepared to hear His truth, and no matter where they are on their spiritual journeys, they would make the most of this experience.
- The opening speaker would set the tone and expectations for the group.
- God would stretch and grow you throughout this experience-- ask Him to meet you as you seek His guidance and direction while you lead people on this journey.
GROUP TIME OVERVIEW
- Check-in-10 minutes
- Large Group Gathering- Introduction 24 min. video found in the ABC webpage:
Jose casts a vision for Rooted, and encourages individuals to invest and stick with it.
- Facilitator leads group time
TIP: Everyone will be arriving from different places, a welcoming environment for them. Be gracious. Welcome each one as they arrive, especially this first meeting, as they may have check-in issues, or get lost on their way to group.
I. Icebreaker-5 minutes
- Use an icebreaker to help the group connect.
TIP: Because people might not know each other on this first night, understand that they might not feel comfortable opening up and talking. Be prepared with discussion questions and | or additional icebreakers to help engage everyone.
II. Introduction Video- 25 minutes
- After watching the Intro Video ask ..What did they hear from the intro speaker?
- Ask each person to introduce themselves and answer the same two questions, "How did you end up in Rooted?" and "What are you hoping to get out of this Rooted Experience?"
TIP: Understand that some people might not want to be there. Some may have been brought there by a parent, spouse, or friend, and might be resistant to the whole experience. Be okay with that. You can create a welcoming environment, but it's the Holy Spirit who will change their hearts:
- FACILITATOR: Share your Faith Story of how you came to Christ fist, modeling for your group how to share their stories.
- Ask for 2 volunteers to Share their Faith Story for the next group time.
- ____________________________________2. _____________________________________
- Explain that it must be done in a 2-5 minute time limit, the purpose of sharing is in preparation for Wk 9.
- Here is the structure of the Faith Story.
- My life before Jesus was _________ ______,_________________and____________________.
- I came to faith in Jesus when I was _______________________________at _______________.
- "How has Jesus changed you?"
- If they do not know Jesus yet, the question can be "How did you get here with us? Right now--in this Rooted group?"
TIP: Get a notebook to journal your group times.Even in this first session, it is important to take notes. You will use the notes in Week 10 when you pray a blessing for them. Listen to how your group members introduce themselves, as it will give you insight into each person. This may play a major role in a later session. Ensure your notes are organized for you to use in future prayers, blessings, and commissioning.
III. Set Expectations-15-20 minutes
- Confirm everyone understands the schedule commitment, including in the 10 group sessions, three experiences, and a final celebration.
- Set the dates aside for the Rooted Experience planned, or remind everyone to CHECK his or her calendars for days that conflict***Remember the expectation is not to miss any group time.
- Ask group members to silence their phones, and refrain from texting during the group time.
- Get everyone to download the church app. For group communication.
- Explain the Rooted Covenant, the values behind confidentiality, and the importance of creating a safe space. Have each person sign the form, and keep it to reference throughout the 10 weeks if needed.
- Close your time with a simple prayer for God to bless your group and your time together. Keep in mind that some people may have never prayed before, let alone prayed out loud. Be sensitive to that as you pray, or as you ask others to pray. Ask for a different person each time to pray to close the group time.
- Remind everyone of your meeting location for the next group time, especially if it will change.
- Remind group members to do the Week 1 reading found in the ABC church web page under: Connect >>> Life. Group >>> Rooted Session 1 for discussion for the next gathering.
ROOTED COVENANT
It is our desire to promote a safe environment for sharing the most important things in life. We want to provide a place where people can reveal openly and confidently the broken areas of their lives without judgment or condemnation. We are not here to "fix" one another. We encourage openness, vulnerability and intimacy during discussion and prayer times. In order to ensure a safe haven for personal sharing, we ask that each Rooted participant enter into an agreement of confidentiality.
Additionally, to get the most out of this experience, our hope is that you make a commitment to attend all sessions and
participate in the group discussions. If you cannot be there, group dynamics will be impacted. If you know you will miss more than two group meetings, we ask that you attend at another time when Rooted will be offered again.
I agree to the following
I agree to the following
___ I agree to attend all group meetings
___ I agree to keep all things shared by my group members confidential at all times.
Sign your name _____________________________________________ and today's date_______________________